For fear of offending, let me clarify my previous blog which helped me clarify my previous, previous blog. This is referring to the happy single life. When I say happy and single and put these two choice words together, it's not meant to be an oxymoron. The two together make a perfect fit.
How many people are the exact replica of you? Zero. For that reason, nobody knows you like you, and nobody can fulfill you but you. Now, if you don't enjoy yourself, then being single can be miserable. Chances are, and an afterthought solely, another person will not want or desire any part of your misery. Perhaps your Mom will put up with it and give you the comfort you need, but very few and far between will want to partake in your melancholy and in your sheer gloom.
In response to: "How many arrogant people do you know who are single, miserable and don't have any true close friends?" Here goes...
Being single and miserable are two separate things, entirely. Yes, I'm currently in a relationship, but before I was in this said 'relationship', I was...brace yourself for this...single. But not miserable. The two do not go hand in hand. They certainly can, pending how one views their single life, but the reality is that it's a beautiful time to just be. Maybe this sounds lame coming from someone who's 'attached' at the moment, but I'm not speaking from a state of euphoria. I'm happy I was single for such a long period of time. Really happy. Truth is, I couldn't be in a relationship without that crucial, distinctive time. It's enjoyable to figure out what works for a person on an individual level (albeit challenging at times), and let's face it, it's fun not having to answer to anyone.
Having said all of that, there are many single people who are single because of who they are. Arrogance can play a factor, as well as an inability to be one's true self in an intimate relationship - this can be in the form of sabotage, and for a number of other reasons; it can be attributed to how a person views themselves in a relationship, or views past relationships, or their readiness to be in a relationship, or the unwillingness to be open to one, etc, etc, etc. More often than not - my opinion solely - being single is a choice. Whether that's on a conscious or subconscious level.
Once a person consciously recognizes this choice, he or she can pinpoint the factors that determine this choice. And either,
A) be okay and content with it.
B) if not, build on what it takes to be open to possibilities, OR
C) continue to blame outside factors for your life decisions.
If C is a viable choice for you, "I pity the fool..."
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